Confession: We’ve been low-key crushing on Sam Claflin, 30, Brit, unabashed romantic, and star of My Cousin Rachel (out June 9th) since he played Finnick in Hunger Games: Catching Fire. And when we saw him in Me Before You, well, we pretty much fell in love.

Only one problem though, the guy is happily married and a dad, so we’ll just keep that fantasy to ourselves for now. In the meantime, we caught up with Sam to chat about his relationship with his wife, his biggest insecurities, and what cracks him up. Behold:

IF YOU HAD A MONTH OFF, WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Does my wife [British actress Laura Haddock] have a month off as well? I want to be with my wife, I want to be with my baby, I want to see my friends, I want to see my family, and I also want to be in Hawaii. That’s my happy place. With nothing to read and nothing to do.

DO YOU THINK S.O.’S SHOULD BE BEST FRIENDS?

Yeah. I mean, look, when I go to the pub to have a couple of drinks and watch football with my buddies, my wife doesn’t necessarily have to come with me and sit through a match. But of course she’s my best friend. She is someone who knows everything about me, and I couldn’t love someone I didn’t love as a best friend. You have to have that bond for it to work. It goes hand in hand.

WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR HANGUPS?

I’m very insecure about my body. Hollywood has an ideal body with a six-pack and pecs, and that’s a lifestyle that’s just not sustainable for me. I want to be a happy married man and a really good dad who gives time to his kids. I don’t want to be spending hours in the gym. A lot of men are as insecure about themselves as women are, but it’s not as much shone a light on. There’s a sense that you’re not allowed to talk about it as a bloke, but it shouldn’t be that way. (The Slim, Sexy, Strong Workout DVD is the fast, flexible workout you’ve been waiting for!)

WHAT DO YOU THINK MASCULINITY MEANS TODAY?

Men through history have been persuaded to think that you have to be manly and brave and strong and the backbone of the family. And that’s changing now. As women are taking a much more equal standpoint in terms of the careers and opportunities that men have always allowed themselves, a lot of men have realized they don’t have to live up to all that anymore and the world’s perception of men has changed.

So I think men are starting to open up more and show love more. Since having my little boy, I definitely have. There’s another layer of love you never knew existed, and I’ve become more sensitive to other people and situations and the world, I guess. For example, I’ve been a stay-at-home dad when my wife’s been working, and I’ve loved nothing more than that. But I think a lot of men do still feel uncomfortable if their wife were to earn more money than them, and they are still clinging to the way it used to be. But they shouldn’t feel like that. Once we allow ourselves to just be and live and change, we’ll be better off.

WHAT WORLDWIDE OBSESSION ARE YOU NOT INTO?

Selfies. I don’t really get why people genuinely believe that duck face is attractive and that putting a filter on everything is beautiful. I feel like there’s so much more to life than a sepia filter or spending hours taking 7,000 selfies. It bugs me beyond belief that our younger generation is seeing the world through a filter. Don’t get me wrong, I am a bit active on social media, but I feel it’s there to mock, really.

WHAT NEVER FAILS TO MAKE YOU LAUGH

“Dirty jokes and farts. I’m so immature. I’m a typical teenage boy in that respect.”

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